Three Ways To Live On The Plus Side Every Day

Goal setting isn't just about the big things in life. Sometimes, setting a much smaller, daily goal to stay positive can be a great reminder that you're moving in the right direction.

When was the last time you had a good day? Can you remember? Was it yesterday? Last week? Three months ago?

And what made it good? Was it because things went well, or just because you felt good about yourself?

We can't always guarantee that things will go well, because the world is not in our control. But with a little effort we can guarantee that no matter what happens we feel good. Here's a simple, three-step, daily goal-setting exercise to keep you on the plus side

Step #1 - Smile. When we feel good we smile - that's obvious, but did you know that if you smile it makes you feel good in return? The very act of pulling our facial muscles into the position for smiling, and I do mean a proper smile, not just a twitch of the mouth, releases hormones which actually make us feel better? The body to brain connection is a two way street and we can send messages in both directions.

I find that combining the smile with an improved posture, straightening up, pulling back the shoulders and standing taller is a potent combination that instantly lifts my spirits.

Step #2 - Think the best possible thought. When I'm feeling worried or anxious about something, I know perfectly well that worries achieve nothing, but they can be difficult to dispel, so I have a favorite thought which I keep for just such an occasion.

I go back to a time a few years ago when I had to give an impromptu presentation to a large audience, which I wasn't expecting. I was unprepared and very nervous, but fortunately it was on a subject I knew well.

At first I stumbled and hesitated but after a few minutes I could sense that the audience was willing me to succeed and I began to feel more confident. At the end of twenty minutes of non-stop presenting, I received thunderous applause and a room full of smiles. It was one of the most fulfilling moments of my life and I can still remember it vividly.

So when things are pressing down on me, I simply remember that moment of triumph and all my troubles are put back in perspective.

Step #3. Help someone. Fears, worries and insecurities are inward looking and self-centered modes of thinking. One sure-fire way of moving away from them is to focus externally by carrying out a simple act of kindness for someone else.

Carry someone's shopping, spare a moment to talk to someone alone, help a loved one with a difficult task or give a hand to a stranger. Whatever you do, make sure to do it with an open heart and no expectation of reward. Your reward will come from the good feelings you create within yourself.

So, next time you're feeling anxious or depressed, set yourself the goal to simply stand up straight, smile, think your favorite thought and go find someone to help. I guarantee you'll be living on the plus side in no time.

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    headshot: David Beroff in St. ThomasDavid Beroff started writing software at the age of 11, and was teaching Computer Science at Rutgers University by the time he was 18. After designing software for two decades, he started his own Internet marketing firm in '95; one of his company's earliest successes was, a free feedback-form service that was later sold to Wondermill.

    Beroff had bought and sold four million voluntary, opt-in email leads generated with properties like LeadFactory and SuperTAF before the business failed in '07. He is the author of the book, Turn Funny Email into CASH!, and is currently developing a new social media site,

    He has two grown children, and now lives outside of Scranton with his girlfriend and five cats.

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